ONE OF THE SECRETS OF HAPPINESS
In view of current hysteria, the hate spoken by our leaders and spread by the media.
Its no surprise people are expressing some quite horrible views on social media,
leading to a general feeling of separation and disharmony
So this may be a golden moment to ask - have you heard about the ancient secret to happiness?
Its been used for centuries. It improves mental health and fundamental to a harmonious life style
What exactly is this secret? It's the Art of Not Being Offended
Now after reading those six words, you may imagine this is a simple skill, however,
if you take a moment, you will probably find it quite easy to recall when you were last offended
To master this tricky art, you must accept every statement, action and reaction by people, is the result of their own life experience. We each act from our own experiences and needs to survive in this world, and that can be painful to accept sometimes. This is not to take anything away from our relationships, but consider this for a second...
What damage is actually caused when you get offended? Nothing! You don't lose anything. You are not physically hurt. You don't contract a disease. You are exactly the same. Nothing actually happens!!!
Oh hang on...yeah one thing does happen, your ego gets poked
Yes that monkey inside your head, becomes disagreeably vexed. However, if you want to live in a democracy (even the pretence of one) you have to appreciate, sometimes there will be different views to yours...
Accepting this will untangle you from the words and reactions of other people
Every time you feel offended, there is an opportunity to communicate with that child-like monkey mind, to show it that acceptance is a valid path. The other person certainly may be suffering without actually knowing it - you dont need to educated or heal them. But this is indeed a golden opportunity to educate that furious little monkey inside your head!
When you provide no platform or space for anger, drama, harshness and criticism, something changes within you.
This is not to be confused with allowing ourselves to be hurt, neglected or taken advantage of -
compassion does not allow harm to ourselves
Once you accept nothing is personal, negatives begin to fade and disappear from your life. When you are conscious,
abuse can only happen if you believe what is being said. Don't you remember what your mama told you...
"sticks and stones may break your bones, but words can never harm you"
Your inherent worth is not determined by what someone says or believes about you. Its just their opinion, and they are completely entitled to it! As an emotional species, we face personal challenges throughout our lives. These can have a major effect on us, often distorting our ability to focus on the things we are actually seeking
If you can walk through life, without allowing your ego monkey mind to get antagonised, life gets a whole lot easier
- regardless of the fact other people may be doing their best to off-load their personal ka-ka onto you!
The art of not being offended takes patience and a little practice. It will certainly allow you to move around the planet in a much lighter mode. Its a lovely skill to master, truly one of the secrets to a healthier lifestyle...
Now fu_k off!
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art: claudia tremblay
words inspired by: steven hughes/shemsi prinzavalli
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