The world continues to tell us to "Be yourself" or "Never forget who you are." This is fine and dandy if you actually know who you are - however, a complicated operation if you don't yet know yourself, are a little confused or still deciding! The other issue with this advice is which "you" are they talking about? The child? The teenager? The 20-30-year-old? The grown-up 30-40-year-old?
I was a loud, full power 4-year-old running around and causing plenty of trouble. An entirely different 8-year-old, interested in the world and learning as much as possible. A serious 12-year-old and a rebellious 15-year-old. A problem soaked 16-19 year old. A drug-fuelled 19-23 year old. A suited 24-27-year-old and a 27-45-year-old party promoting social lubricant!
Throughout our lives, we take-on different characters, living life as these characters. Often believing this is the real me. However, when we glance back, we notice how much we have changed, and only then realise it was just another experience
We've been fooled into believing our past experiences define and shape who we are today. The trouble with recalling these past memories, is they are old versions of you. Versions which are no longer relevant or required.
People like Bruce Lipton, a developmental biologist, are bringing fresh thinking and understanding. His fantastic research proves we are shaped by our environment and consciousness - not by our genes or even DNA. This allows us to understand ourselves in new ways, and yes that means we really have the ability can shape our own destiny!
We have been listening to old psychology for way too long. Making us believe stupid things such as... if you were beaten as a child, you will probably hit your child. If your parent were an alcoholic, you would probably be one too. Saying we are shaped by past experiences is complete psychological mumbo-jumbo! Psychotherapy itself is not based on any medical or scientific proof, it's merely a subjective view...
It's our attitude to the past and view of the future which ultimately has an effect in shaping us. The percentage of abused, neglected children who grow up to become like their parents is minuscule but gets far more attention from society, then the child who grows up without following these negative patterns
If you are unfortunate enough to have had bad experiences in the past, the path to overcome and move forward is to forgive - either yourself, other people or your parents (yes they are people too!) Imagine if you only focused on the best of your life to date, on the good things that have happened to you. This is an alternative way of thinking. Make peace with your past, then you may move forward fuelled with the right intention.
The old way of thinking puts ideas into our minds, trying to fit us into boxes, thereby programming us into negative patterns. Our brains love patterns, it doesn't distinguish a good pattern from a bad one. If it recognises a trend, it just follows it - i.e., my parent was an alcoholic, so I'll probably be an alcoholic too. Then our consciousness brings these patterns to life
It really is time to stop accepting contrary instructions from past century thinking. Feel what is inside you. Forgive. Close doors. Go forward. The journey ahead will be full of positives and negatives. You get to choose which of these two emotions to feed - the one you feed most will grow stronger
New science shows our experiences do not define us. They are only moments in our life, some good, some bad. Ultimately you decide There is no box. No set rules. Your past is exactly what it is...the past
You are always right, and your consciousness will always obey you
Forget who you are and focus on who you are going to be...
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